Answering personal questions from patients

I was interviewing a depressed patient with my attending in the room, watching. I asked my patient if she had any thoughts of death or dying, and she said yes. "Well what of it? Haven't you had those thoughts?" This direct personal question took me aback. I faltered, then I answered her question. I knew right away that she was trying to rationalize her own morbid thoughts by normalizing them. See, you think about death, too, so my thoughts of death are normal.

Then she turned to my attending and asked him the same question, but he handled it completely differently. He sat back relaxed in his chair, looked down at the floor briefly then right back up at the patient meeting her eyes, he smirked slightly, then he said, "You know, I think it's really interesting you asked me that." His voice was saturated with sincere curiosity. "Why is it do you think you asked me that?"

I was in awe. How deftly he had flipped her question right back to her and incorporated the very fact that she had asked that question into an exploration of her depressive symptoms! The patient went right along with the flow of the conversation. My attending never did end up answering her question.

I talked with my attending about it afterward. "You're going to be asked a lot of personal questions throughout your career: Are you single? Do you have children? How much money do you make? There's always something behind the question, and it's your job to figure out what it is." He went on to say that a very real power differential exists in the clinical interview. It's not unfair; that's just the way it is. If I ever feel like a patient is interviewing me, that should give me reason to pause and wonder, Why? From there, I should let my own curiosity guide my response.

This lesson made quite an impression on me, and it gave me an important tool to use in future clinical interviews.